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Day 5: Brain Dump Time #Roxys7DayChallenge

7/31/2018

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So far I've made you do physical labor and do some deep thinking about the future. Hate me yet? I have to admit, yesterday's long game work was the hardest for me to do. Because I keep thinking I need to have some super lofty goal. 

When I first started writing complete stories, I had a dream of having a book published. I got there, and then wanted print. Then I got there. Aaaannnnddd...then I got stuck. What now? Making lofty goals was a lot harder once I started accomplishing some of them. Because then it became real, and fear combined with some serious imposter syndrome took over. 

So yesterday I pushed aside the idea that I had to have a huge milestone goal that was bigger and better than the last one. I made a goal that I knew I could do, but pushed me a little, and wrote out the steps. In fact, after I finish up with this blog, I've got some of my first steps plugged into my calendar. Which means, I'd better get into today's task!

For Day 5 we're going to start with something easy. A brain dump.

There are a ton of different terms for a brain dump, but at the end of the day, you're going to make a list of everything going on in your head. If you've never heard of a brain dump before and want more information, I've got a short video below. And she included a "Trigger List" link from the book Getting Things Done in her video notes.
Remember grandma's timer that isn't linked to your phone or computer? You're going to shut down your distractions and dig it out again. If you want to grab the trigger list to have as a prompt go get it now, and then shut down your wifi. 

Set your timer for 10 minutes and write down everything you've got swirling in your brain. To Do's. To Buy's. Remember It's. Get it all down on paper. If you are done before the ten minutes, check your calendar or the "Trigger List" and see what pops up from there. You can keep going after the timer, but don't stop before it. Give your mind a chance to take a few u-turns and get lost to make sure you get every item on there.

Now that you've got all these items, it's time to organize them! You can create any categories you want. I'm using three.

Home - These are any items that are involved in the maintenance of my household. Bills, repairs, cleaning, school assignments, etc. I also put my evil day job items in this category. Because my evil day job is not one I love, it is used to pay the bills only. And bills fall under the "Home" hat for me.

Health - We tend to push our health to the back of the lists. At least I do. And I'm making an effort with this challenge to force myself to think more about the health of myself and my family. Things under this category might be meal planning, grocery shopping, doctor's appointments, exercise (eww), etc.

Heart - We started out this challenge with our "Why". This is where all those little steps toward that go. Personal development, books to read, vacations to take, classes that are for your own joy and not a requirement for a job you hate, all that stuff...it goes here. This is where my writing lives. 

You've got a little organization, now it's time to fine tune it. We're going to do the following steps for each category. Pick whatever category you want to start first.

Step 1. Find all time sensitive items and write them in your calendar. 
Remember that calendar I told you we were using? It starts today. Do you have upcoming birthdays on the list? Mark them down. Job interview? Mark it down. Any item that is an appointment or a time sensitive task you want to remember, put it on the page. If you're not sure about an event, but you want to remember to make a decision about it, take a postit and plop it on the date you need to RSVP by, or add a reminder to your online google calendar. If evaluating your schedule on Day 2 of this challenge made you realize you don't have time for something, cross it off your brain dump list. It's gone.

Step 2. Look for items you need to delegate.
A lot of times things will pop up in your brain dump that are not really yours, but you need to check in on them. Mark next to the item, who it belongs to, and if you need to make a call to check on the item, put it in your calendar. If you find you're worrying about something that isn't really yours to control or check on...cross it off. If there are chores you need to share with the rest of your family, make a list of everything that you can turn over to others, and turn all of it into a family meeting To Do. 

Step 3. Find your Top 3
Once you've slogged through and eliminated all the items that aren't really yours to take action on, find your top 3 items in each category. They could be your top 3 because of how time sensitive they are. Or they could be your top 3 because they mean the most to you. This is where you get to pick the most important items. And also why I'm limiting the lists to 3 categories. Nine items are more than enough to focus on.

Step 4. Write down the next step
For each of your top 3 items write down what your next step is. Just one. Is it sending an email? Making a phone call? Doing some research? What is the next actionable item you need to do. And your next step is not to "make a decision". If you're informed on the topic, make the decision now. If you need to discuss the decision with other involved parties, your next step is to make a phone call or send an email. And if you aren't informed enough to make the decision, figure out why and research it.

Step 5. Take action
You now have 9 next steps on items that are the most important in 3 categories. Some of them are more important to you than others. Pick three actions of these nine and put them on your calendar for next week. You know how much time you have in a day, and where you have time in a week. Fit three items in there, and write them down.

Pick one more off this list. Put it on your calendar for tomorrow. I don't care if it's sending a single email. It's going on tomorrow's calendar.

Then pick one more. Do it today.

If my math is correct that leaves us four items on your top nine. Those go the week after next. 

Today: 1 task
Tomorrow: 1 task
Next week: 3 tasks
Week after: 4 tasks

Step 6: Decide when to re-evaluate
What has stopped my progress dead was not stopping to look at all these lovely lists I'm so good at making. So before we finish up today, you're going to put one more thing in your calendar, and it's a note on when you're going to check in on your top items. I've set aside an hour every Friday to update my calendars and check in on the upcoming week. That's the time that works for me. Find yours. It could be an early morning on a Saturday, or a late night on a Tuesday. It doesn't matter, but you need to take the time at least twice a month to look over your schedule, and update what's coming next. Find your time and plug it into your calendar.


Speaking of re-evaluating, these blogs are taking me a bit longer to post than I anticipated. So my one hour block is turning into two. The adjustment on my Google calendar is already done. I'm doing this challenge right along with you guys. And it's kicking my butt too. But I want to make a change. So I'm putting in the work. Do this with me. We're getting geared up to accomplish great things. And it starts today.

Remember yesterday's lesson? You had to add one item from your long game goal to your calendar. Did you do your first step yet? Don't worry if you didn't, because you're working out your schedule again today. Make sure to mark it in. I've got one hour until my reminder goes off on mine. It's time to get cracking on my brain dump.

What are you going to accomplish today?


~Roxy
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Day 4: Long Game #Roxys7DayChallenge

7/30/2018

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I'm here...kind of. My 12 hour work shift was yesterday, and I'm dragging while on muscle relaxers. But I'm here! And today is going to be all about our long game. I don't know about you, but I'm enjoying my clean desk space. I even brought out some pretty coasters to put my water and coffee on. It's giving me a big smile first thing in the morning. But now it's time to get to work.

If you're anything like me, sometimes you have to trick yourself into being productive. "I'll just do this one thing, and if I can get that done, I'll watch a YouTube video." I bargain with myself for computer time. It's sad, but it helps me complete tasks when I'm dead tired.

Today is going to be all about figuring out at least one long term goal, and breaking it down into actionable steps. 

If you've not done this type of goal setting before, pick a six month or a one year period of time. I've found that when I go beyond that, I start to lose my drive. But I've also been in the position of saying, "I don't even know what I want!"

Step 1
Make a list of what you DON'T want. This can be as long or short as you deem it necessary. Write down all the things you don't want in your life. 


Example
I don't want...
A dirty house
To stay in my current job
To drive my crappy car
To be overweight
To always be late

Step 2
Make a list of things you DO want. If you're stuck on making a goal or it's hard for you to decide, take some of your don't want items and flip them.


Example
I do want...
A clean house
To get a better job
A new car
To be fit and trim
To be on time to important appointments

Step 3
Pick one goal to pick apart and make specific.
Notice something about the "want" list? There are no specifics. And that's where it's hard for us to get excited about them.

Let's rip apart an easy one. A new car. Well, which car do you really want? What make, model, and year? How much does that car cost? Are you wanting to take out a loan for the car? Lease it? Pay cash? 

I'll break it down as if it were my goal.
Let's say I want a 2018 Chrysler 300. I went to the website and constructed my dream car with all the bells and whistles. That car costs $34,560. Then I went to my bank's website and researched car loans, because I wouldn't be paying cash. I would need a down payment of $2,500. My monthly payment would be around $675. I'd also look at my credit score to see if I need to improve it. Which would get me the interest rate I want. 

Now I have three parts of my goal already in place. I need to save up $2500 in cash, make a budget where I have an extra $675/month, and raise my credit score twenty points by paying off $3000 in credit card debt. From here, I would break down if I want to earn extra money and increase my income, cut expenses in other areas of my life, sell some things I'm not using around my house, etc. I'm not going to go all the way to the end, because no one needs to know my expenses. (Yikes!) But you get the idea.

Make a list of every step you need to take to get to your goal. If you don't know a step, guess what? Your first step is to research.  

Step 4
Decide on a timeline for your goal.
When are you wanting to accomplish this goal by? Is this a 1 year goal? 3 years? 5? Make a decision on the period of time you want to give yourself to accomplish this. 

All the individual parts of your goal from Step 3 are ready to come into play now. Is there an order they need to go in? In the car example, I'd want to pay off the credit card debt first. And breaking it down further, I'd decide which card to pay off first. Looking at my current budget, let's say I want to pay off my first $800 credit card balance in 3 months. I'd need to pay $267/month PLUS interest on that credit card. 

NOTE: Remember when I said you had to be honest? This is another instance where that comes into play. Especially when we're talking time constraints and money constraints. Goals should push you, but they should also be humanly and fiscally possible. If you're working full-time, have kids, and pets. Taking up a hobby that is going to require twenty hours of training per week, is probably not feasible unless you get yourself a Hermione-style time turner. I'm not saying you can't take vacation time if you have it available, or that you shouldn't hire some part-time help from a cleaning or pet-sitting service to find that time in your schedule, but you need to prepare for that.

Step 5 
Evaluate and redesign your goal.
If you get to the end and look at the journey ahead and decide this timeline isn't realistic, change it. If you realize you can't get one step done without adding a few more, adjust them. Or if you end up looking at all the steps or costs involved in your goal, and think..."I'd rather spend my money elsewhere if I'm going to work that hard for it." Well, you just came up with another goal. Work on that one.

Give yourself the chance to want something big. Something you're excited about. Something that makes you go all gooey and crosseyed at the thought of it. Do you want to publish a book? Have you written it yet? Are you in the edits phase? Remember your "Why" we started out with on Day 1? How does your "Why" fit into your goal? 

Step 5.1
If you haven't been working this out in your journal, I want you to pick up your journal now and do your three pages.
 The journaling is important. Remember in the beginning, you promised to write in your journal every day? Even if you're making lists or drawing a giant middle finger because I'm doing this to you, it counts. I'll even give you some prompts if you're stuck.

No. 1 = Write a diary entry as yourself from the future. This version of you has already accomplished your chosen goal. Write about how this goal has made your life better, and how you got there. Write about how grateful you are to have worked hard to get to where you want to be.

No. 2 = Give yourself a pep talk as if you were talking to a friend. The way we talk to others is often very different than the way we talk to ourselves. Imagine your friend had your goal. What would you say to him or her, to remind them how awesome they really are.

No. 3 = Write exactly how you're feeling about your goals. How does setting a big goal make you feel? Are you nervous? Excited? Overwhelmed? Explore what emotions pop up when you think about the future. Our inner monologue can help or hurt our chances of success. You can't change negative talk until you acknowledge it's there. And you can't take advantage of excitement if you don't nurture it.

FINAL STEP
Add your first steps of your goal to your calendar.
Work your goals all the way down into something you need to do daily or weekly. What days are you going to do this thing? How long are you going to spend doing it? 

This is for your big goal. One thing main thing you want to accomplish. If we don't plan for the future we're stuck spinning our wheels instead of moving forward. That's why THIS item goes on your schedule before anything else. This is your goal. This is what you're working for, and what is going to make starting your routine and your schedule worth it. 

Even if it's not a huge goal, consider this. Accomplishing any goal at all is training for when the big momma goal comes into play. If you want something, you have to take those first steps forward. You have to build momentum, and it's going to start a chain reaction. We're getting ready to kick ass. All we have to do is take the first step. 


~Roxy

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Day 3: Prep for Productivity #Roxys7DayChallenge

7/29/2018

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How did yesterday go? You've now got some time available to get real work done. Or you've started making changes to get that time back. I set up all the reminders I need so far for the school year coming up, and I knew I needed to get that done. It feels awesome having that off my plate. And I changed some of my reminders to tasks to make sure I have the space blocked off. Seeing the sleep time blacked out on google calendar helps me visually realize how much time is gone, and it prevents me from putting too much crap on my To Do lists. 

If your To Do lists are as long as mine, you know it can filter in at the worst possible moment. Especially before you tackle any self-managed task. Every writer I know has some kind of cleaning or organizing chore they tackle the moment they should be doing something else. Edits? Can't. I have to scrub the kitchen floor. Seriously, our houses are never cleaner than when we should be working.

So what we're going to do today is find our productivity space and get it prepared for our awesomeness. 

Where are you the most productive? Where do you work from most often? Do you have an office? Do you work from a nook in a different room in your house? Pick the spot that you either get the most done in, or that other people aren't going to trash in an afternoon. 

If you're a kitchen table worker, there will always be something to clean up before you get started. So your challenge is to carve out a space for yourself in the house that's YOURS. Grab a card table and set it up in the back of an unused closet or in a corner of your bedroom for all I care, but find some space that's yours. Maybe even a comfy chair where you can tuck your feet under you and work on your laptop. But it needs to be a place you can't see other To Do's. Turn it toward a closet where your back is turned to the frequently unmade bed.

If we want to be productive we can't see 8 million different things that belong somewhere else. We'll inevitably feel overwhelmed. And here's the part I'm not looking forward to today. Today we CLEAN OUR WORKSPACE UP. 

Today you're going to take the time you set aside for this 7 day challenge and clean up your work space. No, you can't just wipe down the desk and call it done. What do you find yourself looking for when you work that you can never find? What stalls you from getting your work done?

Are you constantly looking for a certain pen or marker or highlighter among the cup of two hundred you have sitting on your desk? Throw the rest in a pencil case and only keep what you're using on your desk.

Do your headphones constantly run away from you? Put them on a command hook on the wall over your work space.

Do you keep knocking over snacks because there's no room on your desk? Well, buck up buttercup. You're changing that today.

Before you start coming for me for making you clean...let me tell you why you're doing this. If you're covering your space with clutter, when your brain starts to mull something over, it's going to get distracted. "I should really get that bill paid." "I promised I'd have that craft done." "Maybe my cat would like to play with this crumpled up piece of paper. I shouldn't just throw it away."

And for all my research lovers out there, no, you can't watch a tutorial on how to clean your room first. You're grown ass people. Pick up your shit and put it away. And if you don't have anywhere to put it away. Dollar Tree (or the dollar store in your country of choice), sells bins for a buck. Or if you have empty cardboard boxes lying around, cut off the flaps and turn them on their sides for cubby storage until you have the funds and the time to go buy something more permanent. 

For the writers who work best outside their home... Now I know some of you are snickering. "Hee hee. Roxy doesn't know that my work space is at a coffee shop. I'm home free and don't have to do this exercise."

WRONG. And I'm offended that as a former Panera Bread writer you don't think I see you.

If you're most productive time is outside the house, you have a bag you take with you, and I'd bet good money it's in need of re-organizing too. If you have a portable office, your job today is to clean out your bags, files, and anything else that might have you digging for what you need instead of heading out the door. Or figure out what stops you from heading out the door? Is it dishes? Meal prep? Laundry? Brushing the cat? Think about the last time you got out the door later than planned. What stopped you?

Was it a phone call? Set up a "Do Not Disturb" time on your phone to prevent that.
Was it meal prep? Set an alarm today to remind you to get that done with plenty of time to still get out the door.

Write down your roadblocks in today's journal pages and figure out how to work around them or prevent them from happening. 

Today we make our space into the office we want to work in. We're nesting so our muse can come lay us the best story eggs ever hatched. And maybe even throwing out that dead plant we swore we wouldn't kill this time.

I'm turning on a timer and an audio book and getting started. I'll post my before and after pics when I finish. Seriously, thank goodness for my library's audio collection and the Overdrive app!

After you've cleaned up your space, or created one for yourself, get your journal out. Use your freshly scrubbed space and write your three pages about anything you want. Write about all the creative ways you want to hurt me for making you clean, or the harrowing tale of how you almost died from tripping over your pets while you worked. But be aware of your new space while you write. How does it feel to journal in your newly cleaned space?

Tell me how it goes! And yes. You really have to do this. I dare you.

~Roxy

EDIT TO ADD: Below are my before and afters. Not bad to accomplish before my 12 hour EDJ shift. :D

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Day 2: Basic Needs #Roxys7DayChallenge

7/28/2018

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It's day 2 and I already was trying to make excuses. Which is exactly why I needed this challenge. I was up and got all the basics taken care of with the pets and making coffee. I looked at the clock. I'd promised myself I would be at my computer by 6am. It was already 5:45. Surely I couldn't get my dishes done and counters cleaned in fifteen minutes. I might as well start my day at the computer. 

But then I'd be throwing out the mini routine I'd been working so damn hard on. So I figured I'd keep an eye on the clock and just put the clean dishes away. Well...damn if that didn't take less than five minutes. Huh. Okay. I'll get the easy to rinse dishes in the dishwasher and leave the pots. I did that and still had time left. Turns out to do my dishes, start the dishwasher, clean the sink, and wipe down the counters took me thirteen minutes. I was going to give up having that done because I didn't think I had time. So if you're thinking to yourself..."I don't have time to spend doing this." You won't have time.

Maybe tell yourself, "I've got five minutes. Let's see how much I can knock out." instead. You might be surprised.

Today is going to be the start of our scheduling. I did this process a few months ago, but my routine and schedule has changed since then, so my calendar no longer applies. I need a revamp.

Our assignment for today is to see how much time we REALLY have. Take out your hourly calendar, your online calendar, or a scrap of paper you've got enough room on for your average week, and put the following things in there.

1. SLEEP 
You have to sleep. It's important. Before you start scribbling it in, be honest and think about how many hours you need to feel rested. Is it 6? 8?

Now. When do you want to get up in the morning? Write your wakeup time FIRST.

Then, here's the kicker, and the part that was the hardest for me, start counting backwards and blocking off the hours until you get a full night's sleep blocked off. I need about 7 hours of sleep. I wake up at 5am. That means my bed time is 10pm. No joke. I go to bed at 10pm (or damn close to it) every night. Some night's I'm in bed watching some ASMR by 9 if I'm tired.

If you want to or HAVE to get up at a certain time, be realistic. You can't get 8 hours of sleep if you're hitting the sack at midnight and have to be at work by 8. Which brings us to the next thing to add to your calendar.

2. WORK
Unless you're a full-time author or a stay at home mom, most of us have evil day jobs or part time jobs. If you don't, this would be where you plug in volunteer work that has a set time block, or school schedules where you have to drive kiddos to class, and pick them up. This is where you need to put in anything that is non-negotiable, or a schedule you are not in a position to change.

Write in your work hours, but also your drive time. How long does it take you to commute? How long does it take you to get dressed? Hair done? Makeup on? Uniform ironed? If you have any of these items to do, put those on your calendar too. Remember how I talked about being honest? See why it's important? You can't magically teleport to the office, and if you can, I want to work where you do.

3. MEALS
Yes, there should be three of these. Are you someone who "doesn't have time" to eat? Welp. We're fixing that now. These are the next things to go into your calendar. And not just a blip reminder to eat. No no no.

Are you eating out? Well, you have to drive there. Which takes time. I calculated it out, and because of traffic during meal times, it takes me longer to go grab McDonalds than it does to toss a pre-prepped stir fry onto the stove and make myself a smoothie to go with it. Which do you think I should be eating? But while I do that most days, or eat leftovers, I keep breakfast bars in the house to cram more work in my morning routine.

Considering our time will help us make more informed food choices. But for today, write down what you're going to do. Are you driving to grab fast food? Block out that time. 30 minutes? An hour? It's gone from the schedule. 


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​Even if you don't use a calendar, I highly recommend writing out every hour in the day for your average week, and marking these things down. Seeing your schedule in a visual block form, makes you realize how precious the time is. 

If you're like me and want the ability to edit and tweak the schedule, I highly recommend Google Calendar. If you've never used it before but are intrigued by the time blocking and alarms I use. I've got a video from a fave YouTuber below that will help you get a visual idea of what I'm talking about.
Have you printed out your calendar? Are you writing these things down? No? Stop reading and go do it. This is a challenge. So we're going to get this ish done today.

Have you put in your time blocks? Do you see the time you're working with? That's your time. That's what we're going to make the most of.

Now, maybe you've put in all your "Have To" items and realized, you don't have any spare time, or you've inadvertently double booked yourself, or not given yourself time to eat. It's time to change your "Have To" items. Maybe you really don't have time to volunteer. Maybe you need to delegate some of the meal prep, or buy items that come pre-prepped instead. Perhaps you've got a large block on the weekend without anything else going on and you can prepare your meals there to eat through the week and give yourself an extra 30 minutes a day.

This is a big assignment, and it takes some fiddling with to make sure you get everything in it's place. 

Once you've finished time blocking, it's time to set alarms. Which items are you always forgetting? Are you chronically late to work? Set an alarm on your phone to go off 30 minutes before you have to leave to make sure you re-focus on getting ready. Do you forget to eat lunch? Set an alarm 15 minutes before you're due to leave or prepare your food, so you can wrap up what you're working on. If it's just a task you have to get done on a certain day, pick the time you usually do said task and set a reminder. I have a reminder set for taking out the trash and the recycling. I'd always forget otherwise.

Sit back and look at what you've accomplished today. And grab your journal. Don't think you're getting out of your three pages. Now that you've blocked out your time, write down what you've discovered. Do you have more time than you thought? Less? Did you realize you might have been cramming far too many items on your To Do lists? Or did you find time to read your favorite fiction books that you didn't even think about being a possibility? 

Yesterday you wrote down why you wanted to get a schedule or routine in place. Perhaps you wanted to find time for specific items to get done. Which items in your life are at the top of your priority list? Look at the empty blocks in your schedule right now. Perhaps you can already see where you want them to fit in. Do you need to get up earlier to have the morning routine you dream about implementing? Do you realize an afternoon or evening routine might be a better fit for you? Write down your thoughts. You've got three pages to fill, so let your mind battle with itself on the page and see what you come up with. 

I'm off to revamp my schedule and get my own morning pages in. I've got a busy day with a kiddo birthday to celebrate, but I'm getting my work done first. When you're done with the work, come back and tell me what you accomplished today. I'd love to hear about it.

~Roxy
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Day 1: Find your Why #Roxys7DayChallenge

7/27/2018

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Hopefully you got yourself a notebook. You didn't? I'm not taking excuses, so grab yourself some paper. I don't care if it's the back side of that insanely boring handout you forgot to throw away from yesterday's work meeting. You have paper and something to write with. Grab it. I'll wait.

Today is Day 1 of my morning routine challenge. I dragged my own ass out of bed at 5. Okay, so maybe it was 5:05, but it's a fuck ton better than it has been, and since I didn't have as many dishes to do, I'm still at my computer before 6am. Boom.

This challenge is going to be two fold. So pay attention.

FIRST...You are going to find an hour to set aside for the next 7 days. Nope, I don't care if it's at the same time. I don't care if it's in the morning or at night after everyone has gone to bed. But I want you to find an hour to spend on yourself for the next 7 days (including today) when you're not going to be interrupted. This will be one hour when you turn off your phone, turn off your computer, and grab grandma's old kitchen timer to set for 60 minutes. 

Using your phone as your timer? I highly recommend doing a "Do Not Disturb" setting on your phone for that hour. You can pre-program your phone to go into this mode for your scheduled hour. And while you're in there, set yourself a reminder for thirty minutes before your self-development time, so you know to wrap up what you're working on. Go do this now. I'll wait.

No. Seriously. Go do it now.

My hour is going to be 6am-7am for the next five days and 9am-10am on the last two days, because I have an early morning commitment on Wednesday and Thursday. I wrote them in my planner, so those times are set in stone. They are happening. 

Now...is this shit going to take an hour? I dunno. I don't know how you work. But if you set aside an hour and tell your family you are doing something really important and they can't disturb you, no one is saying you can't finish the work in thirty minutes and spend the next thirty eating from your secret snack stash and watching YouTube.

Second task of the day...Get out your journal and commit to writing at least 3 pages in there every day. I'm a huge fan of "Morning Pages" as you can tell if you've been following my blog at all for the past months. So I'm going to make you do it too. If you're looking at the journal you picked and the pages look awfully big, I won't tattle if you grab a smaller journal. But I can tell you, after incorporating this into my own morning routine for the last month, I'm getting a bigger journal next time. 

I'll even give you a prompt for today. 

Find your "Why?" 

I want you to journal today and figure out why you want to change your routines. What are you working toward that you need to make time for? What in your life would be better if you could commit one hour a day to it? If you're looking at this and saying, "An hour's not enough time to get done what I need to get done, Roxy. I need way more time than that!"...well, how much time are you spending on your goals right now?

If you're here and in need of a kick in the ass, my money is on the fact that there are days where your time spend working toward your goals is a big fat zilch. So even if you take just an hour...every day...think about how much you could have accomplished during those zilch days.

I have a post-it note addiction, so I'm going to slap a bright yellow post-it right over my computer with my "Why". At eye-level. 

Why do I need a kick in the ass? Because I want my writing to be a career, not just a hobby. And if it's a career, it should be treated like a job, and I need to show the fuck up.

But my main goal is not the only thing I want to incorporate into my morning routine, because I am the queen of excuses and procrastination. If there is a dirty dish in the sink, I'm probably not going to get my writing done. And we won't talk about how much I clean when dealing with edits. 

So during your 3 page minimum, if you know exactly why you want to do this like me, brainstorm about what you would like to incorporate into your daily or weekly routines. What are some of the things you wish were getting done around your house that are falling by the wayside? What do you wish you could do daily? Is it adding in affirmations? Or *shudder* exercise? Is it making a breakfast for yourself? Or maybe it's doing the laundry more regularly, or taking your dog on a walk. I don't know your life, or what you wish you did more often. That's between you and your journal. And I'm not saying in the slightest that I'm going to make you do all the things in there. This day is for you to figure out what you want to get done, and why the fuck it matters to you. 

That's your challenge for today.

1. Block off an hour without interruptions for yourself for the next 7 days. And let everyone know they interrupt you at their own peril.

2. Start the first part of your new habit with 3 pages of journaling to find your "Why".


Feel like writing more? Do it. But you need to put in at least 3 pages, and you need a reason you want to change your current habits. If you don't have a reason, it won't work. Trust me.

Did you do the work? When you're done come back and tell me when you're taking your hour. Come back and show me your "Why" on a post-it where you can see it daily. 

I'm off to do my journaling. Let's make shit happen this week.

~Roxy

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Miracle Morning...Ish #Roxys7DayChallenge

7/26/2018

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I've been listening to Miracle Morning Millionaires as my personal growth read. Miracle Morning and the S.A.V.E.R.S. have always been an aspirational goal of mine, and I attempt to work them in, but I've struggled to do the routines outlined. So I'm going to do what I always do and take a bit from this book, and a bit from what's been working for me, to create something I think might work.

I'm going to give it a shot at least. So I figured you guys might like to try it with me.

I'm going to give myself and anyone who wants to play along a 7 day morning makeover challenge. This challenge will include things like...

1. Goal Setting
2. Basic Self-Evaluation
3. Cleaning, or Leaving the House (It's a one or the other thing. So you'll have to pick the lesser of two evils.)
4. Using an Hour-Based Planner or Online Calendar. (I'm going to be using both)
5. Being REALLY Fucking Honest

And it starts tomorrow. Meaning every morning, I'm going to set my alarm for 5am (I want to say 4:30, but I'm giving myself some room to fuck up), and do something every day to evaluate my path and productivity.

After taking multiple classes with detailed plans, I've determined that anything beyond a week gets sketchy. People get sick, folks call into work and plans need to be redone, but usually, we can skate by with a week commitment.

And I've found that I need to have something I can do in the morning, because for me that's my most productive time. If you want to play along on this 7 day challenge with me, I don't care if you're an early bird, a night owl, or an afternoon pigeon. You do you. Because that's what is usually missing from this stuff. But I am going to say to do something every damn day. Don't worry. You'll have plenty of time for a cocktail after.

I'm going to be detailing these posts every morning before, during, or after I've accomplished each task. So don't expect a ton of graphics or links. It wouldn't be a challenge if I didn't make it a bit of work, and I'm doing this work too, so don't expect fancy blogs on top of that shit. I'm busy.

The only thing I'm going to tell you to buy is a journal. Something physical to write in, and a pen that doesn't skip and make you want to throw it across the room. Because no one needs that shit first thing in the morning. That's your task for Day 0, I guess. And if you're a writer or a reader, I can guaran-goddamn-tee you have a blank or practically unused journal in your house right now. If not...Dollar Tree carries them. You can find a buck in your couch cushions.

Or if you just want to use this as an excuse to buy a new journal...well, I'm happy to enable a fellow stationary addict's addiction. 

Are you down? If you are, or if you just want to watch me struggle with self-evaluation and reflection to laugh at me, I'll see you back here tomorrow. #Roxys7DayChallenge starts in less than 24 hours.

​~Roxy
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Are online skills surpassing IRL Experience?

7/25/2018

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I had a job interview yesterday and the most surprising thing happened. My work as an author and an online content creator was of more interest to the interviewer than my real life job experience. 

To put this in perspective, I'm a college-educated person with years of retail management and customer service skills under my belt. That portion consumed maybe five minutes of our forty minute interview. 

While I don't have experience in the field I was interviewing for, I'd heard about this opportunity and jumped on it. But I assumed my evil day job skills would be my biggest selling feature since I have management on my resume. It was barely a blip on their radar. 

What did we talk about? Online skills. We talked about edits and formatting and uploading and social media. We talked about Facebook parties and coordinating collaborations. Know what we didn't talk about? Management experience. 

Granted, I haven't interviewed in a long time, but the fact that my ability to grapple with authors to plan games and giveaways was relevant in my quest to obtain an evil day job...well you could have knocked me over with a feather! That stuff was just for fun. Right? It couldn't have been a marketable skill. Apparently, it was the most marketable skill on my list.

Like anything you do where you put your future employment in someone else's hands, I tore apart our conversation and thought of all they ways I could have presented myself better. And you know what I would do better next time? I'd put my online experience and skills to the forefront of my resume and my sales pitch. 

With attention spans not lasting any longer than a quick scroll through Facebook, you have to catch attention immediately, and refresh that first impression over and over again until it finally sticks in the back of someone's head. So savvy online people are valuable. Who would have thought all that time playing games with my friends online would have been topping my resume!

So for all those authors out there who are looking for a second or third gig to keep the lights on, I'm telling you right now...don't for a second discount all the skills you have as an author. I'm going to completely revamp my resume before sending it out again. 

Do you use your online skills as a feature for your Evil Day Job interviews? Do you have a blog? Write reviews for one? Host online events? Those skills are more valuable than you think they are. I definitely learned that yesterday. 

What do you think? Are skills with emails, social media, and skype-style conferences taking the place of in-person interaction at your place of employment? I'd love to hear about how you think the business world is evolving in your line of work. Tell me about it in the comments below.


~Roxy


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What I've learned from 30 days of journaling

7/23/2018

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I've been chatting about my "morning pages" or daily three pages of journaling as part of my morning routine. When I looked back, I realized I've kept up the habit for over a full month now. So every morning, before I've even had my coffee, I sit down and brain vomit onto the page.

Most importantly, and I think something not enough people talk about...I didn't always want to do the work. That's right! There were mornings where I got up and grumbled and pouted and wanted to run away from my office without opening that book. I wasn't skipping to my journal with butterflies dancing around my head. If anything, the only animal I got was my cat weaving between my legs making me fall and whack my knee on the table. But I hopped for a second and kept going. Once I did put pen to paper, I never once regretted the time spent. 

I've also learned I'm super hard on myself. There is something about writing down all of your thoughts that makes you realize you're being a dick. When you have to put a negative thought down on paper, it makes you pause and rethink it. At least it made me pause. Taking the time to look at what is coming from my pen is humbling and inspiring, but most importantly, it's honest. And in being honest, I have to admit it when my negative self talk is not the truth. 

Every chance I get, I turn negative parts of my day into positive action plans. Personal pep talks are my journaling forte. I always seem to end with a written kick in the ass to myself. I recently ended a post with...

If it doesn't come to me right now, it will soon. I'm open to the opportunities that are about to flood my way.

That's the biggest difference I've seen in myself after daily journaling for a month straight. I'm more open to ideas. I'm more open to gratitude for what is going well, and I'm incredibly open to the possibilities I have in front of me to take advantage of.

Luck and instinct are two factors that have dictated an incredibly huge part of my life. I decided what college to go to the second I walked onto the campus. My hubby just happened to play the same instrument as me in the marching band. My passion for reading turned into a career as an author all because I reached out and told one of my favorite authors that she was hilarious and I owed her a beer for the laughs.

But luck and instinct, don't put in the work. I tend to drift, and let me tell you guys...perimenopause is a bitch on the brain along with the body. Journaling has forced me to take the smallest of babysteps in reviving the parts of my gray matter in charge of focus. I sit and write without stopping, and that makes me sit for at least five minutes and focus on what crazy shit is floating around up there. 

Now, am I saying all of it makes sense? *snork* Not at all. Hell, my handwriting isn't the best because I've spent most of the last few years working from a computer. So some of those entries aren't legible unless you close one eye and cross the other while saying a chant and smoking something only legal in some of the United States. That doesn't mean that the parts I can read aren't super important.

I'm not going to talk about all the crap I wrote down, mainly because some of it is crap, but some of it is super personal. Journaling is the best therapy. No one is going to read it but you, and that raw honesty is invaluable. Every aspect of our lives is the combination of our responses to external factors, and choices we've made. Some of my journal entries have forced me to look at the parts of my own life I want to change. I get to explore how I got where I am, and what I can do to make a different choice to change my path.

I don't do everything I suggest to myself in my journal. I'm not that evolved. But I've started making changes in my life that I never would have, had I not taken the time to reflect on the "Why".

Basically thirty days of journaling has taught me...I need to do thirty more. And thirty more after that. Journaling is now part of my morning, and it's not going away anytime soon.

Do you journal? Do you do it daily? Are you thinking about starting now? Tell me about your journaling habits or just send this office supply hoe a pretty picture of your favorite notebook. I'd love to see it.

~Roxy

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Please stop writing checks in stores

7/22/2018

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I work in retail. Running a cash register in a store is a frustrating experience, because as someone who has worked in this environment for the better part of two decades I can tell you, no retail store uses the top of the line computers to back their equipment. 

Things break down, freeze, and generally don't behave perfectly for more than a few transactions at a time. Basically we don't know how they are going to perform at any given time. So if we're standing there cocking an eyebrow at the screen, we're not idiots, we're just trying to use our psychic abilities to guess what the POS system is going to do this time. 

We also have to have the same conversations dozens of times in a day. And in the age of technology, we have to tell people how to use their own phones on the regular. WiFi is a complicated thing.

But for the love of all that is holy...please...from a cashier...stop using checks in stores. Please.

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Checks are still able to be taken, but most places now use them like a debit card anyway and the money comes out immediately. Meaning...we use them like debit cards. No joke. The customer doesn't fill out the check at all in my store, and then I write VOID in black marker across the check before handing it back to the customer.

But unlike debit cards, we have multiple opportunities to screw up, there is a lot more fraud, and it takes FOREVER. Checks can't be starter checks, they have to run through the machine twice, they can't be business checks, they have to have both the address and the phone number on the check...so...yeah. I dislike checks.

And here's the thing...if I screw up and take a check that I shouldn't, because sometimes the machine will approve a bogus starter check, I HAVE TO PAY FOR IT! So not only do I have to worry about doing the procedure right, but I have the added anxiety of being out hundreds of dollars if I do it wrong.

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Checks are the bane of my existence, and every other cashier's nightmare too, because it slows down the line. 

Please...I'm begging you. Use your debit card.

A woman yesterday took out her checkbook.

She took out a pen to note the amount.

AND THEN SHE PULLED HER DEBIT CARD OUT FROM BEHIND THE LEDGER!

I damn near hugged her. 

Be this woman. Use your debit card. Please.

​~Roxy

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I took a tarot class

7/21/2018

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A little background. I've been dabbling in tarot since I was in high school. I bought the classic Rider Waite deck and got acquainted with the basics, but was never very good at reading them unassisted by a book. Even with a cheat sheet, I wasn't the best.

Jump ahead a few years, and I found a book and a deck that I connected with well.

I thoroughly enjoy the definitions and spreads in the book Power Tarot and the deck I found for myself in New Orleans, the Cosmic Tarot. 

Relationships seem to be my forte. So while I've mostly read for myself, I did get to a point where I even predicted a friend would be "barefoot and pregnant" by a certain month, and she's now had her third child and is a stay at home mom. I also did a few spreads when I met my hubby and informed him we'd be getting married two weeks after we started dating. He laughed at me for a few months...until he bought me a ring. ;)

All that aside, I didn't really trust my own intuition with the deck, unless it was screaming at me. So when an inexpensive online class called "Intuitive Tarot" popped up on my feed, and I had a few bucks in my bank account, I decided to give it a shot. I'm so glad I did!

I spent 21 days taking thirty minutes to an hour each morning and spending them with my cards. I meditated, I visualized, and I took some time over that period with every one of the cards in my deck. I'd heard before from multiple sources that taking time with each card was important, but this class took me on a journey with some direction, which is what I desperately needed.

I even put symbols under my pillow to try some dream work, but I was more successful with the meditation part. I don't think my nightmares about my retail job count toward the class assignments I was supposed to be doing. Seriously...coupons are terrifying sometimes. *shudders*

Fair warning, if you're not into visualization meditation, or chakra work, and haven't been exposed to any of that before, this class might move a bit fast in spots. I have a very basic familiarity, so I could keep up, but there were a couple days I had to click off my tab and do some research. 

After we got near the end, I had probably the best connection with the cards I've ever had, and even did a couple readings for myself without consulting my favorite book once! For some reason, I've never had a good reading from someone else. All the ones I get from other people are vague, and leave me with a real sense that the tarologist couldn't get a lock on me. Which is why I prefer to do my own readings.

My deck was gathering dust before, and now it's sitting just to the side of my desk. It makes me smile to have a way to mull things over in my mind with a little prodding from universal energy. Not to mention the fact that the deck is gorgeous, and reminds me of my trip to New Orleans.

Have you ever had your tarot cards read? Or do you read tarot too? Tell me about your experiences, I'd love to hear your stories.

~Roxy

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