The words we all shoot for when reviewing our WIP, am I right, writers? I heard my CP say those words the other night, and my first thought was, "Of course your book isn't crap. You're awesome! Now, my book? My book is crap."
We're our own worst critics. And while we might fall in love with our books by the end of the final round of line edits, the majority of us are constantly living in fear that people will find out we're faking this whole shebang, and are really just frauds.
Yes. We really all think that.
There's even a term for it. "Imposter Syndrome."
Here's a quick video about it.
In the end. We all think we suck. And when we try to combat our negative thoughts with positive reinforcement that we're not alone, all that comes out of it is our brain will tell us..."Yeah. Totally true for other people. But I actually suck."
We all think we're that one schlub in dirty sweatpants at the gala.
The thing is, most of us don't know how to handle it. I've gone back to just a simple "Thank you" like I talked about a while back, but I'm still left feeling like I need to go lie down, because my brain can't wrap it's head around the praise.
You're just as wrong about yourself as I am about myself. We can't can't get it through our own skulls how awesome we are.
So maybe we aim toward the middle. Let's aim for "Not Crap" first. Then we can scale our thought ladders and work towards praising our own accomplishments.
At the end of the day we need to be able to walk up to a reader and honk our own horns. I'm off to get a few words in while the rain is pouring down outside.
Are you writing today? Or doing something else your evil brain is telling you you can't do? Do it anyway. And just in case you need a soundtrack, here's a song to add to your playlist. Let's sing it together and get shit done.